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Dear Abbey: My wife and I have been married for five years and are raising four children. One is from my previous relationship, one is from her previous relationship, and two are from us. We both have joint custody. My son goes to school near his mother. My wife’s son goes to the school where we live. 9 and 8.
There is a lot of tension between us because my father-in-law is not the best parent. He never comes to school or sporting events, so he misses all half. I regularly attend my son’s events. My son’s event is a few hours away, away from my son-in-law. I put a 9 year old kid first. He is my eldest son and I have few of him. My wife disagrees with this, and we constantly fight about it. I believe I’m doing the right thing. Please give me advice. — The wonder of Wisconsin
Dear Mystery: We apologize for your wife’s son’s father not stepping up to the plate. But don’t let your wife interfere with your relationship with your son. You are interested in what he is doing and doing the right thing by emotionally supporting him.
Dear Abbey: I have been married for nine years. My husband does not allow me to leave the house without him. He makes sure I don’t have a car or I can’t access the car we have. He told me that it didn’t mean anything, but when I tried to take a walk alone, he was right behind me.
If you go somewhere with your sister or friends, you have to wait until he’s gone. If he goes home before I go home, he sits on the porch and waits for me. He’s not physically abusive, but I feel like a prisoner. I told him several times how it made me feel, but he doesn’t seem to understand it. I really need some advice. — Trapped in Georgia
Dear Trap: You don’t get it because your husband doesn’t want it. What he does does not show any love or concern for your safety. It’s an example of his own anxiety and you need to control. This is a big danger signal. My advice is to call the National Domestic Violence Hotline and discuss it with someone there. What is happening can lead to abuse. The toll-free phone number is (800) 799-7233.
Dear Abbey: I love grown-up kids and grandchildren, but I hate them when they “go home” for more than a week. The house is turned over and turned inside out, and you lose your temper. Then I feel like a terrible mother. Everyone suggested meeting somewhere, but it didn’t work. help! — Invades North Dakota
Dear Invaders: Your suggestion may not be well distributed to your children and grandchildren, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t “suggest” it again. And when you do, when they visit, they confuse your home and leave, so make sure they understand what you’re saying. It’s enough unless they are willing to make sure your home is neat when they leave, just as they did when they arrived.
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