Kansas City, Missouri 2020-12-22 20:17:00 –
Kansas City, Missouri (KCTV)-This year’s holidays are not the same for most people.
For many Metro families who have lost their loved ones this year, it’s just a daunting task.
In the Kansas City area, COVID-19 has killed more than 1,300 people. 174 murders have been recorded in Kansas City, Missouri alone — suicides are on the rise.
Each of those deaths is still an open wound for those who loved them.
“We know we can get over this. It’s really rough right now,” said Misty Donaldson-Urriola.
Christmas will be particularly tough for the Uriola family this year.
It was Edgar Uriola’s favorite holiday and his birthday. He died of COVID-19 in May.
“I didn’t think I needed to be a single parent. I didn’t think I had to do this myself,” Urriola said. “And my kids are suffering so much. I’m not just trying to support them, love them and give them a good Christmas, but respect their boundaries you know. Do you want? “
Misty and Edgar raised five children together. Their age is currently 8 to 21 years.
Misty is trying to keep the family tradition this holiday season.
“The big thing for us is going to Christmas in the park. Edgar loves Christmas in the park. Every year it’s big,” she said.
Although my family was sad, I went to the park for Christmas together this year. They are also still planning to make a birthday cake for Edgar on Christmas Day.
Other grieving families may want to skip their holiday tradition, and that’s okay too.
“Sadness is a form of low-grade depression. It’s fog, but you’re going to get over it,” said Bruce Lazy, grief coordinator at St. Luke’s Hospice Care.
Lazy said the pandemic created “sadness for steroids.” People are saddened by the loss of normal life. This includes the loss of loved ones for many.
Many did not have the opportunity to say goodbye to those who lost due to hospital restrictions due to COVID-19.
“There’s a survivor guilt associated with it. It’s an extra layer of complex sorrow,” he said.
For those who are sad, it is important to give them permission to feel whatever they are feeling. But it warns that being too isolated is not a good thing.
“Ask for help and talk to others. Holidays are the key to communication.
Leisy says he is responsible for checking in anyone who is known to be sad this holiday season.
“And use the name of your loved one. People want to hear the name of their loved one spoken. They want that love and want to live, but I They are so worried that they will say the wrong thing. Say you don’t know exactly what to say because it can be wrong to say nothing, but I’m you I’m here for, “he said.
For the Uriola family, all the events of a happy life to come will be a little sad as Edgar isn’t there to share it. But as long as they stick together as a family, they know they will get it done.
One thing that helped Misty is to write to Edgar every day, whether she lost him or was angry at his disappearance.
St. Luke’s has a bereavement center for those who need help overcoming grief.
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