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Dear Abbey: I have been married to my husband for seven years. We are in our 60s. He refuses to make a will. He tells me what to “put” in his will and asks me if I’m okay with his wishes.
He has an adult child since his first marriage and wants to include her in his will. I’m fine with what he wants. This conversation has been going on for over five years, but he doesn’t act on it. I’m very hurt and frustrated.
The house is his name and my name is not in his checking account either. I’m indignant at this. There are times when I want to get divorced because I don’t think I can be relieved if something happens to him. I also think he is selfish and unloving to me and his adult children, leaving us in a situation where we have to go through the probate process. Please help me to contact him. — Indignant at Maine
Dear resentment: Your husband may be afraid to face his own thoughts of death. He will not be the first. They need to make an appointment with a lawyer who specializes in wills and property. If he doesn’t state his wishes in writing, the assets he worked hard on may be severely reduced when the state decides “for him” and removes a significant chunk from real estate. ..
While you are talking to a lawyer, there should also be discussions about end-of-life plans. Does he want hospice? Palliative care? Do you know what his wish is if he can’t speak for himself? Those wishes need to be in writing, and you need to do so too. (This subject should also be raised with your doctor.)
Most people want to keep working and decide for themselves what happens when they die. Death is a fact of life, and even if you hide from death, you will not die.
Dear Abbey: I send a lot of greeting cards every year on birthdays, anniversaries and Christmas. I’ll keep a lot of them, so I’m ready to go.
This year, I received a Christmas card from an elderly family saying “Thank you for the insulting anniversary card.” “Insult” was underlined twice. I was disappointed. Their anniversary was last August. I have a lot of them, so I don’t know which card I sent. I think it was a humorous card that wasn’t interesting, but I’m not sure.
Both are very careful and directional. What is the right thing to do here? When I don’t know what it says, do I call them and apologize? Shouldn’t we send an anniversary card next year, or should we send a very common card? I am very angry that my good wish was not accepted too much. I would appreciate any advice you can give. Thank you very much. — Confusion in the Midwest
Dear Confusion: Call the couple and ask what happened to the cards that upset them. Explain and apologize that it was not your intention to offend them. Send an anniversary card when the time comes, but when you do, make sure the message inside is correct.
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