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Mixed signals frustrate best friend who wants more – Twin Cities

2021-05-15 01:19:45 –

Dear Abbey: I’m a lesbian. There is a girl I liked a little over a month. We are like best friends. When I told her I was attracted to her, she basically zoned me to friends, which hurt. Then she talked to a common friend who was thinking of becoming a “profitable friend” with me, and I was excited. Well, she was afraid that it would be a nuisance, so she changed her mind again.

I’m still in love with her, but I value our friendship. We spend a lot of time together, and things are easy but also challenging because I just want to grab her and kiss her. We always snuggle up and she gives me a hug every day (we live in the same dorm). I want to get along with her. These mixed signals are killing me. what do I do? — Dazzled and confused in Florida

Dear DAZED: That’s right. This young woman is giving you a mixed signal. So you should put her firmly in your friends zone. Stop hugging and snuggling up and move on. Then you can find someone to reward your feelings. (Absence is known to caress the mind.) Perhaps her feelings for you will change when she realizes that you can move on. But if not, you will only lose more heartache.

Dear Abbey: Recently my beloved mother-in-law has passed away. Finding the exact date and family information was a challenge while writing her obituary. Many families uttered conflicting information. Is it reckless to ask relatives for some of this information in advance to prevent this confusion in the future? If so, how do you write something about this topic without offending someone? — Wondering in Michigan

Dear Wonder: What you are thinking is practical. If you have a relationship with these relatives, why not bring up some of these questions in a regular conversation? (I think you know where they were born.) It doesn’t get in the way when people ask when they graduated from high school or college. The year someone got married is also not confidential. If you just start talking, you may find a lot of the information you are looking for.

PS If your relatives are willing to make an effort to write down their own story, it may be summarized in a valuable family history.

Dear Abbey: Our family is back from a perfect vacation that includes my husband and me, as well as my three adult sons, his wife, two grandchildren, and my mother. .. My husband and I paid to rent a house, and we all put chips for food.

When we returned, my sister called and said she was jealous. She wants to participate again next time. I love my sister, but it will change the dynamics of our vacation. Is it selfish that you don’t want to include her? Is there anything I can say or do to heal the wounds? COVID no longer hosts holidays and other celebrations as usual. — Big family in the north

Dear Large Family: Your sister has the right to her feelings. But it does not oblige you to change your family vacation plans to suit her. Tell her you’ll think about it because you seem to have a hard time saying no, it’s true and you’re not obliged.

Dear Abbey, was written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact DearAbby at www.DearAbby.com or POBox 69440, Los Angeles, CA90069.

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