Mother feels betrayed when son wants to live with ex – Twin Cities

2021-05-31 01:51:38 –

Dear Abbey: My ex-husband and I have two sons, 14 and 16 years old. I have always maintained amicable relationships for my children, but at a high price. Because he threatened “I can’t have a good relationship”. I didn’t want the kids to suffer and I thought it was the most important thing because they would live with me. I succumbed.

The kids don’t know what I gave up to keep peace. We always talked kindly to each other in front of them. Now that one of my sons has grown up, he wants to live with his father.

Wouldn’t you be angry at wanting to live with him who was psychologically abused during marriage and divorce? I made a lot of sacrifices for this harmony, but now what? It didn’t help. Some of me want to tell my son how he behaved, but I know that’s not true. Do you have any advice? — Peace for Illinois

Dear Peace: Yes. I “suggest” that you keep going high and resist the urge to abandon your ex-boyfriend. Don’t resent your son’s decision. Your son may not understand how your father treated you. Your son may not only keep an eye on you, but also listen to you while you are with your father. Leopards usually do not change their position, and those who are emotionally abusive tend to act with those who feel vulnerable. Stay in close contact with your son. If this pattern applies, he may have returned unknowingly.

Dear Abbey: Ten years ago, one of my oldest / beloved friends, Wanda, divorced. Her husband, Tex, cheated on her and left her. Tex happens to be my husband’s oldest / beloved friend. We met at their wedding. Tex is now remarried (against the woman he tricked his friend into) and my husband and I were invited to the wedding. Wanda said I couldn’t go to that wedding and would never do that to me if the situation was reversed. She is still very angry with her ex-boyfriend.

My husband wants to go and wants to go with me (out of state). He says we are “package trading”. I’m stuck on the way right now. Will you end the 37-year friendship and go to the wedding? Or will it disappoint my husband? He is always by my side and goes to every event with my friends. — Torn in New York

DEAR TORN: Remind Wanda that Tex is your husband’s oldest friend and your husband will be attending the wedding. Tell him that your husband wants to be with him “because we are a package deal” as much as you sympathize with her feelings and you are not going to disappoint him .. She shouldn’t use you to punish her cheating ex-husband. It’s time for her to grow up, live her life and move forward.

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