Long Beach, California 2020-11-19 19:10:55 –
On November 12, Brianna Reyes, a mental health clinician at Long Beach City College, held a workshop on student relationships with parents. The workshop started at 2:30 and lasted for an hour.
The main premise of the workshop was attachment and management of related partners.
There are different types of attachments, each with its own severity. One of the attachment styles is called a secure attachment.
“Safe attachment means easily trusting them, adapting to their emotions, communicating when they are upset, and leading to cooperative and flexible behavioral relationships,” says Reyes.
Safe attachment has a balanced relationship that both partners feel comfortable with together. This attachment style has a positive atmosphere and environment.
Other types of attachment styles are anxious attachment styles.
As Reyes explains, some symptoms include “there is really no sense of security in the relationship because of the sensitive nervous system, difficulty communicating, and the tendency to act when triggered.” ..
These partners are usually in need and worried. They feel the need to prove their self-esteem.
Avoidant or negative attachment styles are when the partner feels very independent and isolated. They aren’t really interested in relationships and have a desire to leave.
There may be a trust issue in the relationship. Partners can easily leave the relationship.
Reyes said, “They may have many barriers. They may not be looking for it.”
In a terrifying attachment style, partners are delusional and confrontational.
“We are very afraid of rejection, low self-esteem, high anxiety, and afraid of criticism,” Reyes said of some symptoms. They can get rid of their partners.
The most important factor to practice is to recognize the problems and work on fixing them in order to create a good attachment style.
Reyes reiterated that attachment styles are fluid and can move to other styles. However, most attachment styles were established early in childhood.
There are several ways individuals can change the style of attachments.
“A book on attachment styles may be useful, but I definitely want to meet someone who can help me get support for medical services, point out some of these things, and make connections. I’m thinking, “Reyes said.
“You can do it independently, and that just means doing research. You might find really great books on several different technologies, but these like mental health providers. It may even mean getting support from someone who has knowledge of the problem, “she said.
Reyes then explained the characteristics of unhealthy relationships and codependence. This can lead to self-loss. She also discussed physical violence.
LBCC student Lena Hopkins has previously experienced an unhealthy relationship.
Hopkins said: “It wasn’t a bad relationship. We grew apart from each other and didn’t communicate our desires and needs, so we had to get marriage counseling.”
Hopkins said talking to someone was very helpful and learned that it could help individuals get out of the situation.
Reyes closed the workshop by reviewing some of the tips and strategies he learned in the meantime.