Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 2021-11-24 15:28:17 –
Damon Carr, for New Pittsburgh Courier
We have Thanksgiving. It’s a season of gratitude and gratitude to your family and loved ones. This is an opportunity to look back on the rich blessings and good deeds given to humankind.
Life will come to you soon. We spend so much time overcoming obstacles in our lives that it is difficult to spend time understanding the blessings. We are obsessed with the day-to-day work of working, feeding our families, staying healthy, and having some fun in it. We take a deep breath and do the coveted introspection only when we encounter these vacations or life-changing events.
As you approach this Thanksgiving holiday, you’ll encounter both a Thanksgiving holiday feast and shortly thereafter, the burial service of your mother-in-law who died after what seemed to be a lifelong battle with Lupus. Lupus is a disease that occurs when the body’s immune system attacks its own tissues and organs. Interestingly, when I first met the woman who later became my mother-in-law, I went to the hospital with my girlfriend at the time and visited her. She was fighting Lupus. About thirty years later, when she married her daughter, father and two grandchildren, and finally had a conversation with her, she was in the hospital fighting the negative effects of Lupus on her vital organs. She had a solid heart. So our conversation was fun and interesting as usual. When I arrived, she was listening to my advice and wanted me to know that she was focused on her healing. She told me she needed a two pound weight to be strong. She then started doing what she called exercise. She was lying on her back. She started raising the pelvic area and then she started sticking up and down. I looked at her and said, do you call it exercise? It looks like you were messing with me. She, I, the doctors and nurses, and everyone in the room burst into laughter. She said, son-in-law, I can always expect you to laugh.
In this article, we will share some of the lessons of life that we have learned over the years by observing and interacting with our mother-in-law. Lessons that all of us should be careful about, adapt and apply. The lesson is summarized in three core characteristics that my mother-in-law embodied: gratitude, compassion, and kindness.
Grateful: My mother-in-law didn’t want much and didn’t ask for anything. What inspired her most was the feeling of being grateful and respected by her loved ones. She simply wanted to be asked and wanted to feel the need. She was an eternal donor. Anytime, anywhere, she showed generosity. For a while I prepared her tax. I was impressed during the tax period as she properly presented a document detailing all the charitable donations she made to various churches and nonprofits. I knew that her charitable donation was a huge sacrifice because she was a retired widow and had limited ability to earn additional income. Here’s an example of what she’s doing without, so that other underprivileged people can have something. Seeing others benefit from her efforts was her way of feeling gratitude and gratitude. This is called prepayment. It’s amazing in a culture full of me, me, and my thinking. One of her greatest characteristics is looking for others.
Thoughtful: As you get older, people tend to forget your birthday and you tend to be off the Christmas list for most people. You will be replaced by your child in both lists. I have come to accept it as a standard. Actually, I teach it as a way to make a room that moves in small steps within the budget. My advice is simple. Cross adults from your gift list. Over the years, I was able to count on one person who remembered all the milestones of my life. Every birthday, every holiday, every anniversary, I was greeted with a card and a financial gift. She always handwritten personal notes on the cards. Indeed, the fact that she was one of the few who thought of me on a special occasion made me smile. She didn’t do it just for me. She had the same compassion for her family, friends, and loved ones. She remembered everyone’s special day. She did the same for me, for everyone special to her.
Another example of her thoughtfulness: she had four grandchildren. She set up a college fund for all four grandchildren, one of whom recently graduated from college. Another sophomore in college. The gifts of those colleges came in handy. I hinted at her by saying she had previously given my advice regarding her focus on herself. This is the rest of the story …
I was talking to her on the phone to lift her spirit. She told me, I don’t think I’m going to stay here longer. I pray for you, Rashan (wife) and the children. I pray for Bobby (sister-in-law), Eddie (Bobby’s husband), and the children. I stopped her. I said it was in your honor and very selfless. I hate to admit this out loud, but if I think I’m on the bed of death, my focus and prayer will be directed at me. I told her that my family was good. We got us. I need you to focus on your healing and recovery.
Kindness: To get to know her, you would know she walked gently, but she had a big stick. Don’t cross her You would think I’m lying about her kindness. The definition of kind is that you like or want to do good and bring happiness. I don’t lie, as the reasons for thanking her and being thoughtful show. She had a kind heart!
May all of us adopt and apply this Thanksgiving and forever, compassionate, grateful, and tenderness traits. Happy Thanksgiving from my family to your family!
(Damon Carr, Money Coach, please contact 422-216-1013 or visit the following website: www.damonmoneycoach.com)
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