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Dear Abbey: I’ve been on and off with men for two years. Throughout this time, he has never spent a holiday or Valentine’s Day with me or introduced me to family or friends. When a friend suddenly appeared, he told me to stay in the bathroom of his office. When I objected, he said, “It’s only 20 minutes.” I was scared.
He accuses me of choosing a fight and says that if I try to talk to him about it, I will never be happy with anyone. He broke up with me during the holidays, never called during the holidays, and our date is always last minute. I think he’s using me for sex, but he claims I’m wrong and he’s a decent guy. After his second birthday, he didn’t even want me to have a happy birthday, but he buys gifts and cards for friends and family on every occasion. If I “do not behave properly”, he will block my number. He publicly calls me a “miss”, but the waitress is called “sweetie” several times when we go out.
Are you self-euphoric and emotionally abusive? Am i wrong? He says that once he knows what kind of woman I am, no one will be with me. I’m not always making mistakes, as he wants me to believe. He doesn’t buy me any drinks or food when we are together. I pay in my own way. I regret the day he entered my life. How can I show him what he is doing wrong? — Mostly done in New York
Dear Most Things: Don’t try to “show” something to him, as this shameless man may never consider what he’s doing wrong. End this apologetic excuse for your relationship right now. Because it gets worse, it’s a waste of your time, and he’s very likely to get married and cheat his wife.
Dear Abbey: I’m 62 years old, very healthy and young, working full time as an RN. I recently started dating a 67 year old man I met on a dating site. Going out, doing various things together, laughing, it seems to be a good match. My concern is that he has a serious heart disease.
He has a stent inserted and is taking multiple medications. He also has moderate renal failure. He talks a lot about his health, so I understand that he’s really very crazy about his health.
Recently, when I was taking my dog for a walk, he said he was feeling sick. He fell and the defibrillator stopped working. Another time, while we were traveling, he couldn’t walk far before he said he needed water, and he also wanted to make sure there was a bathroom nearby. At another time, we were trying to stay intimate and calmed down as his defibrillator stopped working.
Should I be with this guy when his general health is very poor? It affects me and us. I don’t want to be a caretaker, but at the same time he is compassionate. — Pulled heart strings
Dear Heart Strings: What a sad situation! At least for him, he shouldn’t have a medical background to see what the future holds.
This is a new relationship. Never in your letter you mentioned the depth of his feelings towards you or the depth of your feelings towards him. He needs to be taken care of — and will probably continue to do so. You said you weren’t ready to do it, so talk to him now while it’s enough to find someone he’ll do.
Dear Abbey, was written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact DearAbby at www.DearAbby.com or POBox 69440, Los Angeles, CA90069.
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