Milwaukee, Wisconsin 2021-10-16 11:46:35 –
It’s a phrase used by novelist Virginia Woolf to describe them. Depictions of angry men in our society can be found not only in movies, television, video games and other media, but also on the streets, at work and in closed rooms. Of course, anger is not limited to male gender, but behavioral science studies have shown that males make up the majority in this regard. So why are so many men so often warlike? depression.
With obvious exceptions, in general, when a woman is in the garbage dump, she is often depressed, depressed and depressed. In contrast, depressed men are more likely to show grief through excitement, hostility, and even physical aggression. Indeed, a short burst of anger is completely situational and can therefore be unrelated to the blues. But in men, chronic hostility, boiling just below the mental side, is usually a sign of underlying depression.
This scenario is often overlooked by helping professionals as well as worried friends and family. A gentleman I counseled was introduced to an anger management course by a former therapist. His main problem was not depression, but hostility and impulsivity. In fact, he was discouraged by a series of setbacks in his career and chronic medical conditions that hampered his active lifestyle. result? He alternated between periods of moody withdrawal and hypersensitivity and episodes of explosive anger, often in response to seemingly minor stimulants. For people of this kind, managing anger is like using a water gun in a wildfire.
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The dark night of the soul?
So, if there is an angry person (or alone) in your life, you may have witnessed a person occupying the dark night of his soul saying. Sure, depression is not an excuse for being warlike or harmful to others, but it may help explain where all the fire and ice come from.
So why do men and women generally have different symptoms of depression? Studies suggest a combination of nature (body chemistry) and nurturing (social conditioning). On the natural side, we are just beginning to recognize that sex hormones (especially testosterone and estrogens) have as great an impact on depression as neurotransmitters such as serotonin and dopamine, which are the targets of many antidepressants. Complex interactions between sex hormones and neurochemistry change throughout life, affecting how each gender responds to mood disorders and even the gender-based response to antidepressants. Give. Therefore, what some women call “testosterone poisoning” in men also seems to play a major role in the behavior of men when they are in the garbage dump.
In terms of upbringing, it is acceptable in our culture that men are more angry than women. In fact, it is often encouraged. Men are given greater social permission to get angry, but subsequent female counterparts experience more negative blowbacks and rejections. This misunderstood idea means that an angry man is a “real man” and an angry woman is a “bitch”.
Said to be strong
Alternatively, men who show the softer side of depression (sadness, discouragement, tears) are more likely to be called “swimming.” Most men are taught to be strong (that is, emotionally oppressed) in the face of sadness and adversity. The problem is that suppressing one type of negative emotion (sadness) often results in another type of negative emotion (anger).
This may, in part, explain why men are much less likely to seek help with depression than women. Men and their doctors tend to label blues as stress or burnout. As a result, depression in men is often misdiagnosed or improperly treated, leading to other problems such as substance abuse, unemployment, domestic violence, and even suicide. Men are four times more likely to be successful than women. This is because anger and agitated depression are often unrecognized and untreated when killing oneself. Leaving anger / depression to take care of yourself means that it is a risky business.
So, if you’re a chronically angry person, it may seem just angry on the surface, but underneath it’s probably just sad.